I didn’t know what to do.
I have worked with kids in some capacity since I was 16 years old. I could connect with children in the classroom, on the field, and in the gym. But there I was trying to wash him in the bathtub, an arms length away from our blue-eyed little boy feeling a million miles apart.
I didn’t know what to do. And it hurt.
It was the first time, and probably the last, that I had raised my voice to this little red headed “mini-me.” We both had a range of emotions running through us. Frustration. Anger. Sadness. Disappointment. I couldn’t comfort him. I couldn’t calm him. I couldn’t ease that inner feeling of upset that he obviously had. He could't put the words to how he felt. And to make it worse, we were 500 miles from home.
I didn’t know what to do. And it hurt. And I think I scared him.
I am sure the whole street may have heard us. By the time Emily came rushing in, she could tell how upset I was at myself and at the situation. Why was he so upset over a simple bedtime routine? Why was he feeling this way? What could I do better to help him from responding this way to us? I desired the opportunity to wrap my arms around him and tell him it would be ok and we loved him. I wanted to wash away his upset and let it drip down the drain. But I couldn’t.
Some of the answers to these questions we have discovered and lived in to. Some we feel we have a grasp on one day, and then lose the next. Still others sometimes feel like an incredible master lock that we wonder if we will ever crack the code.
All I know is this. I love this little boy. He is my super hero. He has made me a better person each and every day I have been around him. Despite the meltdowns, the days we feel we are speaking different languages, or the times he lashes out, I would choose him in 100 lifetimes, in 100 worlds, in any version of reality, I’d find him and choose him.
Without a doubt.
If you have ever felt this way with your child, I hope you join us on our journey. Feeling on an island can sometimes be a recurring emotion that you may have as a parent when your child has these moments. When you can’t figure it out. When talking makes it worse. When you think a hug may make it better, but it over stimulates your child even more.
Trust me, we get it. We have been there. Let’s travel together on this voyage. For our kids…and our grandkids…and our great grandkids.
Our goal is to encourage, enlighten, and educate about sensory processing through family based integrated activities. Our goal was to give our son every possible tool in his toolkit that would help him navigate through the wide ranging life experiences that he may come across.
I made one promise to our son after this experience. He would never walk alone. We would pursue growth. Together. We would learn and flourish. Together. Side by side.
We all have our tough days, but we can band together to form a tribe with the same mission. We very much appreciate your courage to connect. Please like us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/couragetoconnectcle to walk with us!
We hope to see you at our Open Houses as well!